Wedding planner tips: Managing wedding stress

A wedding planner often has some of the best tips and tricks for brides in the run-up to their wedding. In a recent poll of 2000 couples who got married in the last 5 years, two-thirds reported wedding planning took over their entire lives.

Bride Book reports that the average cost of a wedding has decreased for the first time this year. Down 1.3% to a paltry £17,674. It’s no surprise then, that most couples cite budget as one of their biggest stressors in planning.

Stress in itself is not a mental health problem, but prolonged stress can lead to problems like depression or anxiety. Of course, there are some who will worry more than others. If anxiety is something you already struggle with, getting overwhelmed might be very easy.

Symptoms of stress can manifest emotionally, mentally or physically. It won’t often be obvious that you’re suffering from stress so it’s important to know what to look for. Feeling irritated, difficulty sleeping, lack of concentration and drinking or smoking excessively are all signs of stress to watch for.

Remember, it’s perfectly natural to feel some elevated stress and there is a lot you can do to help manage this. Here is our advice for practicing some all-important self-care before your big day.


These days, planning for a wedding can be an incredibly visual experience. Every search of wedding décor bombards you with images of the ‘perfect’ wedding, from the dress to the favours.

Unsurprisingly, the feeling that your wedding is somehow inferior to these picture-perfect affairs starts to creep in. Pitting yourself or your wedding against others, whether online or in-person is a pointless exercise.

Documentation of the links between social media use and depression, anxiety, sleep problems or body image is now vast. Advice ranges from deleting apps from your phone to limit access to ensuring not to spend time on social media before bed.


Professional wedding planners often cite budgetary issues as one of the most substantial causes of stress for couples. Last minute changes and little details begin to add up, leaving couples overstretched and over budget.

Being realistic with what you can spend is always a good start. Then, include a wide contingency of between 10-15% for emergencies. This way, all those last-minute purchases will be covered, reducing stress on you and your bank balance.

Being prepared can cover more than just finances. Another way to reduce anxiety around your big day is to anticipate what you’ll be most stressed about. If you absolutely loathe the idea of making a speech or the mere thought of a first dance, you don’t need to do it. Tradition isn’t everything. If something will taint your day, don’t include it.


Ditching tradition leads us nicely onto our next piece of advice: avoid the drama! Planning a wedding is an exciting time, meaning that a lot of people will have an opinion.

People might think your wedding is too traditional, too modern, too formal, too casual, the list goes on. It’s important for couples to communicate their boundaries, letting people know that feedback is appreciated but ultimately it is their choice.

Coming from a close-knit family can complicate this. You might have an idea of the wedding you’d like but can also feel pressured by your family’s expectations. Here, it might be best to find something you can delegate. This way, they can still feel involved in the process with you getting the added benefit of crossing something off your list.

Crucially, it is important to remember that this is you and your partner’s day. Let other people work at their own issues and focus on you.


Three huge factors in managing stress are eating healthily, sleeping well and taking time to exercise. Even though the appeal of reaching for the crisps and wine is high, it can often be a short-lived solution.

Before panicking, remember this doesn’t have to be anything strenuous. Something as small as getting out for a walk or a yoga class can have massive benefits for your mental health. Evidence suggests exercising regularly can reduce the risk of depression by 30%, as well as improving sleep quality and body image.

Experts also suggest eating a better diet to aid mental health. Research found that young adults who eat fast food more than three times a week had higher levels of mental distress. Trying to maintain healthy eating habits seems to be one of the quickest ways you can reduce your risk of stress. Also, being one of the more basic things you can do means it’s a small thing you can tick off your list.


There are many instances where, if your budget allows, having outside help from a wedding planner might be the solution you need. If you’re time-poor or prone to obsessive checking or worrying, having a planner on hand can lighten the load on you and your partner.

Wedding planners ease the planning process by creating a timeline and liaising with your venue and suppliers. They will also be on hand on the day to put in all the finishing touches so you can focus on getting yourselves ready.

At AlchemyLive, we have over seven years’ experience in planning and delivering beautiful weddings, meaning your big day is in safe hands. From food stations to favours, menus to music, we will bring your dreams to life and guide you every step of the way.


Your upcoming wedding should feel fun and exciting. Of course, there will be stress, but these should overshadow your enjoyment of the event. In the end, whatever makes you and your partner happy is the right this to do.

If you would like some more assistance in the planning of your wedding, contact our expert events team.